Signs Of Abuse:


Did You Know?


A child's exposure to the father abusing the mother is the strongest risk factor for transmitting violent behavior from one generation to the next.

Amy's Law - A 2002 Federal Law that require Judges to look at prior charges of Domestic Violence before setting bail.

One in four women will be domestically abused at one point in their lives. The hardest part about being in an abusive relationship is escaping the situation safely. It is best to recognize the warning signs before getting into a serious relationship with a potential abuse. If you notice three are more of the following characteristics in your partner. It is important to remember that the situation will not get better, and it is best to leave early.

Recognizing Domestic Abuse:

*  Isolates you from friends and family.

*  Very controlling

*  Is extremely jealous and accuses you of cheating, Flirting, or liking with someone else.

*  Invades your privacy by checking your emails, phone messages, and mail.

*  Call you names and curse at you.

*  Has on realistic expectations for their partner( expects them to be perfect ).   

*  Looks down on and constantly speaks negatively about women.

*  Gets angry very easily to the point where you are not sure when they will become               violent ( has walking on eggshells ). 

*  Drive dangerously, hit walls, throw objects and do other things that scare you.

*  Blames you for their problems.

*  Abuses alcohol or drugs.

*  Threaten to harm you, your family, or pet.

*  Force you to have sex you are unwilling.

*  Forces you to form sexual acts that you don't want to perform.

*  Names you as the reason for their constant bad moods.

*  Caused you to lose or quit your job / school.

*  Controls the money in the house, and keeps secrets stashes of money.

*  Constantly keeping track of your whereabouts, driving by, or sending someone else to       check on you.

*  Was abused as a child.

*  Witnessed one of adult abuse another adult in the household they came up in.

*  Hit a girlfriend or boyfriend before in the past.

*  Controls your birth control or insist you get pregnant.

*  Threatens to harm himself or herself when upset with you.

*  Says things like ,"If I can't have you then no one can.

*  Humiliates you in front of others.

*  Destroys your property or things that you care about.

Recognizing Child Abuse:

The following signs may signal the presence of child abuse or neglect.


The Child:


* Shows sudden changes in behavior or school performances.

* Has not received help for physical or medical problems brought to parents attention.

* Has learning problems that cannot be attributed to specific physical or psychological           causes.

* Is always watchful, as though preparing for something bad to happen.

* Lacks adult supervision.

* Is overly compliant, passive, or withdrawn.

* Comes to school or other activities early, stay late, and does not want to go.


Signs of Physical Abuse:

Consider the possibility of physical abuse when the child:


*  Has unexplained burns, bites, bruises, broken bone, or black eyes.

*  Has fading bruises or other marks noticeable after an absence from school.

*  Seems frightened of the parents, and protests or cries when it's time to go home.

*  Shrinks at the approach of an adult.

*  Reports injury by a parent or another adult caregiver.


Consider the possibility of physical abuse. When the parent or caregiver:


* Offers conflicting, unconvincing, or no explanation for the child's injury.

* Describes the child as "evil"or in some other very negative way.

* Uses harsh physical discipline with the child.

Signs of Neglect:


Consider the possibility of neglect when the child:


  • Is frequently absent from school
  • Begs or steal food or money
  • Lacks needed medical or dental care, immunization, or glasses
  • Is consistently dirty or has body odor
  • Lacks sufficient clothing for the weather
  • Abuses alcohol or other drugs
  • States that there is no one at home to provide care

Consider the possibility of neglect when the parent or other caregiver:

  • Appears tobe indifferent to the child
  • Seems apthetic or depressed
  • Behaves irrationally or in abazarre manner
  • Is abusing alcohol or oter drugs

Signs of Sexual Abuse:

Consider the possibility of sexual abuse when the child:


 *  Has difficulties walking or sitting.

 *  Suddenly refuses to change for gym or to participate in physical activities.

 *  Reports nightmare or bedwetting.

 *  Experiences a sudden changes in appetite.

 *  Demonstrates bizarre, sophisticated, or unusual sexual knowledge or behavior.

 *  Becomes pregnant or contracts venereal diseases, particularly if under age 14.

 *  Run Away

 *  Reports sexual abuse by a parent or another adult caregiver.


Consider the possibility of sexual abuse when the parent or other adult caregiver:


 *  Is unduly protective of the child or severely limits the child's contact with other children,       especially the opposite sex.

The Teens that have been abused will have some of these signs:

  • Falling or failing grades;
  • Increased instances of indecision, stops giving her own opinion;
  • Changes in mood or personality;
  • Use of drugs/alcohol, not just experimentation;
  • Emotional outburst, not just mood swings;
  • Depression;
  • Will become isolated, insist on more privacy
  • Physical signs of injury,cuts, bruises, etc.;
  • Makes excuses for the abusers behavior;
  • Begins to put herself/himself down.

Although parents may not see many of these, here are the signs concerning the abuser:

  • Is extremely jealous, hypersensitive and controlling;
  • Verbally abusive and threatens violence;
  • Has unpredictable mood swings, with instances of explosive anger;
  • Uses drugs and alcohol not just experimentation;
  • Isolates their partner from friends and family;
  • Uses force during an argument, physical and emotional;
  • Believes in rigid sex roles women are a possession;


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